Бесплатный фрагмент - My Presence, My Peace: Finding Wholeness in the Here and Now

🌟 Introduction — The Medicine of Right Now

You don’t need to fix everything before you can feel peace.

You don’t need to finish the to-do list.

You don’t need to wait for the right mood, the right moment, the right version of yourself.

You just need to be here.

Fully. Gently. Honestly.

We spend so much of life elsewhere —

in the next task, the next fear, the next version of who we think we should be.

We live in loops: planning, rushing, replaying, regretting.

And in the meantime, life is quietly waiting for us…

right now.

Presence isn’t fancy.

It doesn’t always feel magical or deep or profound.

Sometimes, it’s just feeling your feet on the floor.

The warmth of tea in your hands.

The rhythm of your breath when you remember to come back to it.

This book is not about escaping your life.

It’s about returning to it.

To your senses.

To your soul.

To this exact moment — even when it’s messy.

Because presence is not perfection.

It’s permission.

To feel.

To rest.

To be.

Welcome to your peace — not as a destination,

but as a way of being.

With love,

Kira

🌫️ Chapter 1: Always Elsewhere

Where are you — really?

Your body might be in one place,

but your mind… it’s often far away.

In the past:

replaying conversations, rewriting moments, reliving old pain.

In the future:

planning, bracing, controlling what hasn’t happened yet.

We are rarely here.

We are always elsewhere.

🌿 Disconnection is survival — at first

When life feels overwhelming, the mind tries to protect us.

It rushes forward. It escapes backward. It spins stories to stay safe.

But this protection comes with a cost:

we miss our own lives.

We stop hearing our body’s signals.

We stop noticing beauty.

We stop feeling the present — because we’re too busy thinking it away.

🧠 The myth of multitasking presence

We think we can be partially here.

Half in the conversation, half in our inbox.

Half in the moment, half preparing for what might go wrong.

But presence isn’t about effort — it’s about allowing.

Letting yourself fully arrive, with your breath, your senses, your whole being.

✨ The gift of returning

You don’t have to shame yourself for drifting.

You only need to return — again and again.

Every time you notice that you’ve left the moment

is an invitation to gently come back.

No force. No judgment. Just breath.

🪞 Try this

Pause. Look around.

Name 3 things you can see.

2 things you can feel.

1 thing you can hear.

That’s where you are.

That’s your peace — right here.

🌬️ Chapter 2: When Stillness Feels Unsafe

We say we want peace.

We say we crave quiet.

But when the noise finally fades,

many of us feel uneasy — even afraid.

Why?

Because stillness has a way of bringing up everything we’ve avoided.

🧠 The discomfort beneath the calm

In stillness, we meet:

— The grief we buried

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— The thoughts we silenced

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— The questions we couldn’t answer

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— The parts of ourselves we’ve been too busy to feel

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Busyness can be a brilliant disguise.

It keeps us safe from the vulnerability of presence.

But what keeps you safe can also keep you stuck.

🌿 Stillness doesn’t hurt you — it reveals you

You may feel restless when you slow down.

You may feel sad. Anxious. Numb.

That doesn’t mean something is wrong.

It means you’re finally listening.

And everything you feel — even the fear —

is an invitation home.

💡 Begin with small stillness

You don’t need to meditate for hours.

Try one silent minute.

One slow breath.

One walk without your phone.

Meet the quiet slowly — and let it teach you to soften.

🪞 Try this

Sit with yourself for 60 seconds.

Close your eyes.

Ask gently:

«What do I feel when I stop?»

Whatever arises — don’t fix it. Just notice.

Stillness doesn’t demand silence. It invites truth.

⏳ Chapter 3: The Myth of «Later»

«I’ll rest later.»

«I’ll slow down when things calm down.»

«I’ll feel better once I fix everything.»

We carry peace like a reward for finishing life.

We wait for a mythical «later» —

a future moment when we’ll finally have permission to be present.

But that moment rarely comes.

Because there will always be something more.

More to do. More to fix. More to worry about.

🧠 The trap of postponing presence

When peace becomes conditional, it becomes unreachable.

You can’t outwork your way into stillness.

You can’t plan your way into peace.

The life you’re waiting for is happening now —

not after your inbox is empty, your house is clean, your goals are met.

🌿 «Later» is a story your mind tells to avoid discomfort

It says:

«Not now — this moment isn’t enough.»

«Not now — you’re not ready.»

«Not now — you don’t deserve rest yet.»

But your body lives now.

Your breath moves now.

Your peace begins now — not someday.

✨ You don’t need to earn the present

You don’t need to finish anything to feel joy.

You don’t need to solve everything to feel safe.

You are allowed to pause, even in the middle of the mess.

🪞 Try this

Whisper to yourself:

«I don’t have to wait for later. I am allowed to be here now.»

Then take one minute to breathe with no agenda —

just presence.

This is your life.

Let yourself live in it.

🔄 Chapter 4: The Addiction to Doing

We live in a culture that worships productivity.

We wear busyness like a badge.

We ask, «How are you?» — and we answer, «Busy,» with pride.

But beneath all the doing…

we often feel hollow.

Because when you base your worth on constant movement,

stillness feels like failure.

🧠 Doing becomes addiction when

— You can’t rest without guilt

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— You fear slowing down means falling behind

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— You feel uneasy when you’re not being «useful»

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— You fill every quiet moment to avoid feeling

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Doing becomes a way to escape.

To avoid the discomfort of being.

To avoid the truth that you are already enough — even when you’re still.

🌿 Being is not laziness

Presence is not inactivity.

It’s aliveness.

It’s feeling the world as it is.

It’s inhabiting your body.

It’s remembering you are not a machine.

You don’t exist to be efficient.

You exist to be you.

✨ Doing has its place. But it is not your identity

You can create, care, and build —

without measuring your worth by output.

You are not your task list.